The Annual Pride Debate....

  Well it's June... So you KNOW what that means.

Like the rainbow flags going up on Market Street in San Francisco , the annual debate over the merits of LGBT Pride celebrations re-surfaces like a perennial weed that just won't stay down.

It's a debate that rages  inside and outside the  LGBTQ community. Inside the community, the question is; does some of the imagery of Pride celebrations hurt the cause of equal rights? Also, in the wake of legal victories such as Marriage Equality; some ask  do we even need pride celebrations anymore?

While critics and opponents of equality love to point to that same imagery as evidence of Gay folks wanting "special rights", and then pull out their favorite chestnut, of asking why are Gay Pride Celebrations acceptable but Straight Pride celebrations are not?

Sigh.... Really? It's like asking why isn't there a "White History Month". I get tired of trying to explain to people who really do know better, just how stupid they sound whey they try to make these types of arguments. But fine, since clearly there is some "genuine" confusion out there as to the reason for LGBT Pride celebrations , allow me to clarify.

States in the USA where you can be fired for being Straight =0
States in the USA where you could have been fired for being Gay = 28
Countries that will execute you for being Straight = 0
Countries that will execute you for being Gay = 11 (actually 12 Uganda just re-joined the list)


Growing up, how many books, songs, television programs, and movies did you see that featured straight couples meeting, falling in love and living happily ever after? Pretty much all of them. Ask someone who is LGBT how many positive images in popular culture they had growing up that affirmed who they are? The answer is, none, or at best few, if any at all.

Thankfully this has been changing dramatically in the past few years.

But until those recent advances, Gay characters in movies and television were either creepy villains or camp comic relief. If you doubt that, you really should check out the groundbreaking HBO documentary, "The Celluloid Closet".It shows clearly the disparity in popular culture where messages about sexual orientation were concerned.

 
The Celluloid Closet - Trailer

Then there is the area of religion. The number of straight kids who have been told they are going to hell simply for being heterosexual = 0. The number of LGBTQ kids who have been told that they are going hell simply for being who they are?  = Too many to even try to count.

To my Straight friends, I have to ask, how many times have "respected" public figures, politicians, pundits and clergy gone on national television demanding that everyone be given the chance to VOTE on your civil rights?

How often has someone told you that not being able to discriminate against you was somehow an attack on them? When was the last time you heard a member of the Supreme Court saying that simply by being allowed to exist, you were "an attack" on the moral fiber of America?

Anyone?? Yeah...I didn't think so...

I have a flash of the obvious for you, EVERY month is Straight Pride Month." There is a word for someone who truly feels that equal rights for people they don't like is somehow an attack on them. That word is "Bigot".

Saying LGBT people are human too, isn't an attack on straight people. Those people who really think it is, are, quite simply, bigots. People who say LGBT Pride celebrations need to be stopped, are in fact, the exact reason they all started in the first place.

In 2024 one would think such battles would be long over, but in the light of LGBT rights victories in the U.S. over the past few years, the American Talibangelicals have turned their sights to new targets; Trans Kids and Drag Performers.

The rhetoric on the American cultural Right Wing,  would have you believe a man in a dress and high heels reading  books to kids, is a greater threat than the LEADING cause of death for children in the United States: Gun Violence.

Are Pride celebrations good or bad for the cause of equality? The answer is both. With visibility comes closer examination.  

Opponents of equality love to show images of drag queens, leather daddies and shirtless men   dancing on parade floats, and scream "See! it's not about equal rights! They just want to recruit your kids into THIS!! They never show the families, advocacy groups, welcoming and inclusive religious denominations, and workplace affinity groups who participate in Pride parades.    After all, that wouldn't fit their desired narrative.

Media coverage is often complicit. CNN loves to show the drag queens and gogo boys, but when straight allies like the CEO of Kaiser Permanente, the largest non-profit health care company in the U.S.rides on a float in the SF Pride parade every year, with over 1,200 employees, their families, friends and colleagues, you'd think we all were invisible.

You never see CNN asking Tony Perkins, head of the certified Hate-Group, the "Family Research Council" on Fox News about the deadly cultural fetishization of guns and violence towards minorities on the cultural right, and how that had led directly to lethal antiemetic and homophobic attacks.

That would be admitting something of an inconvenient truth. 

It's much easier to just point at a group of shirtless men on a flatbed truck or women on motorcycles and say that they are the real threat to families.

I have always said that Pride celebrations are not really for the people who attend them. Instead, they are for the people who cannot attend them. Growing up as a Gay kid in a small town in South Central Wisconsin, there were times when I was convinced, I was the only gay person on Earth.

The constant message from popular culture, religion, family and peer groups was "boy meets girl, they fall in love, get married (or not) and have kids and live happily ever after". There was no happily ever after for someone who felt what I was feeling.

Then, for one weekend in June, I would turn on the TV News and see thousands of people just like me, in places like New York, San Francisco and Chicago saying "No, that's not true, you are not alone, and there is a big wide world out here beyond Sun Prairie Wisconsin. So hang in there .... we're here and we're waiting for you!"

1986 Pride Television Coverage

Now more than three decades  later, I watch coverage like this, and it seems so endearingly cheesy. Yet at the time, it was a lifeline to people like me, living with the fear and isolation of being "in the closet".

Pride Celebrations are the original "It Gets Better Project".

My straight friends never needed to be told that being straight was okay, and that they were okay because nobody ever told them they weren't.  

Pride isn't about celebrating being Gay, it's about publicly showing that being LGBT is just as much a part of the human experience as being straight is. I for one would love to see the day when Pride is obsolete. When that scared closeted gay kid, in some small town doesn't need to be told that he or she is fine just the way they are.

So this month we will see joyous crowds gathering in places like Market Street in San Francisco, Oxford Street in London, Halsted Street in Chicago, and Fifth Avenue in New York City, Hillcrest in San Diego, Montrose in Houston, and so many more.

And there is reason to celebrate. We have a President, and administration that honors the idea of "E Pluribus Unum" - that America is one out of many. So in this Pride Month , it is still vitally importing to add our voices voice to the chorus celebrating the diversity of America and the American Experience.

If for no other reason to let that one scared kid know, it really does get better. There is a world where "boy meets boy" and "girl meets girl", where you can be the person that every fibre of your being is screaming for you to be. A world where yes, you can fall in love and (if they want to) get married, and even live happily ever after...

Happy Pride Everyone.

Unprecedented thoughts…

With the unanimous thirty four count guilty verdict in Donald Trump’s criminal fraud trial in New York this week,  the media as been stumbling all over itself to find new and novel ways to use  the word  “unprecedented” .   The context of course, being that having a  former President of the United States,  and presumptive  nominee for his party to run to be the next President charged, tried and convicted of multiple felonies  is  something that  we as a nation have never been faced with before.

Yeah ok….  So what.

I mean it, so what.     You know what else is unprecedented?  Having  a former and wannabe again President who is so singularly focused on his own enrichment and self-aggrandizement. So it can be said that everything about  the sad,  sordid  dismal legacy of Donald Trump the political figure has been  outside of what we knew as precedent .

The implication from folks like House Speaker Mike Johnson is clear; The uncharted territory of all this means normal rules, and even laws should not, and must not apply.   Johnson went so far as to suggest that the United States Supreme Court, (which itself is not having a very good week). should ‘weigh in’ on the matter.   The fact that there is absolutely no legal, constitutional or even common-sense basis for such a thing is irrelevant to Johnson because Trump actually being held accountable for crimes he committed is for him and the GOP, too unprecedented.

Trump himself has stayed entirely true to form.   In 2016 when he lost the Iowa Caucuses and the Wisconsin Primary, he claimed both races were “rigged against” him.   When his fake charity and bogus scam university were shut down for blatant violations of the law, he decried the “rigged court decisions”.   When his TV show “The Apprentice” would drop in the ratings he said the Nielsen system is rigged, and when he didn’t get nominated for an Emmy Award claimed it was a vast Hollywood conspiracy to deny him one.

Lastly, Trump was so unable to process his 2020 election loss that he literally tried to have a mob of his supporters overthrow the Government and kill the Vice-President, and to this day still can’t admit the reality of that loss.  Desperately clinging to the lie the election was rigged and stolen from him.

For Trump, life is only fair when he wins.  

Is it any surprise that his only way to deal with the reality of his current situation was to throw daily tantrums  outside the Manhattan Courthouse, overflowing with delusional accusations of corrupt judges and prosecutors, biased jurors and the entire thing  orchestrated from the shadows by the Biden-Harris Campaign.

Because that is what all this is about.   For Donald Trump, having to face reality, devoid of the protection his personal fantasy world has long provided him, is perhaps the most unprecedented thing of all.

That is why Donald Trump desperately wants to be President again, to keep reality at bay. 

Not to DO the job.  He never DID the job.  During his disastrous four years the vast majority of his time was spent, not actually being President, but playing President.  Constant MAGA rallies of the same recycled grievances and dog whistles.  Hours upon hours of “executive time” spent in the White House residence, waiting for  Fox News hosts to say nice things about him so he could retweet it.    And more time spent golfing than the last three Presidents combined.

Not to rehash traumatic recent history, but the last time Trump was in the White House he was so disengaged from the job that by the time he noticed the Covid Pandemic wasn’t going away, the best he could muster was to suggest we all inject bleach into our bodies and shove lightbulbs up our asses.     Trump’s inability to deal with reality cost the lives of over half a million Americans and did trillions of dollars of damage to our economy we are still trying to recover from.

Being convicted of falsifying business records so voters wouldn’t find out he paid off a porn actress to keep quiet bout their hook up is the least unprecedented thing about all this.   

What is really beyond the realm of precedent is that there are people in this country who think returning this delusional, corrupt, incompetent narcissist to power would be a good idea.

The fact that the grand experiment of American Democracy may come to an end, not via the evil our politicians  but through the ignorance of  our own citizens, that... is what I call  unprecedented.