Thursday, June 08, 2023
Thursday, June 01, 2023
The Annual Pride Debate...
Well it's June... So you KNOW what that means.
Like the rainbow flags going up on Market Street in San Francisco , the annual debate over the merits of LGBT Pride celebrations re-surfaces like a perennial weed that just won't stay down.It's a debate that rages inside and outside the LGBTQ community. Inside the community, the question is; does some of the imagery of Pride celebrations hurt the cause of equal rights? Also, in the wake of legal victories such as Marriage Equality; some ask do we even need pride celebrations anymore?
While critics and opponents of equality love to point to that same imagery as evidence of Gay folks wanting "special rights", and then pull out their favorite chestnut, of asking why are Gay Pride Celebrations acceptable but Straight Pride celebrations are not?
Sigh.... Really? It's like asking why isn't there a "White History Month". I get tired of trying to explain to people who really do know better, just how stupid they sound whey they try to make these types of arguments. But fine, since clearly there is some "genuine" confusion out there as to the reason for LGBT Pride celebrations , allow me to clarify.
States in the USA where you can be fired for being Straight =0
States in the USA where you could have been fired for being Gay = 28
Countries that will execute you for being Straight = 0
Countries that will execute you for being Gay = 11 (actually 12 Uganda just re-joined the list)
Growing up, how many books, songs, television programs, and movies did you see that featured straight couples meeting, falling in love and living happily ever after? Pretty much all of them. Ask someone who is LGBT how many positive images in popular culture they had growing up that affirmed who they are? The answer is, none, or at best few, if any at all.
Thankfully this has been changing dramatically in the past few years.
But until those recent advances, Gay characters in movies and television were either creepy villains or camp comic relief. If you doubt that, you really should check out the groundbreaking HBO documentary, "The Celluloid Closet".It shows clearly the disparity in popular culture where messages about sexual orientation were concerned.
The Celluloid Closet - Trailer
Then there is the area of religion. The number of straight kids who have been told they are going to hell simply for being heterosexual = 0. The number of LGBTQ kids who have been told that they are going hell simply for being who they are? = Too many to even try to count.
To my Straight friends, I have to ask, how many times have "respected" public figures, politicians, pundits and clergy gone on national television demanding that everyone be given the chance to VOTE on your civil rights?
How often has someone told you that not being able to discriminate against you was somehow an attack on them? When was the last time you heard a member of the Supreme Court saying that simply by being allowed to exist, you were "an attack" on the moral fiber of America?
Anyone?? Yeah...I didn't think so...
I have a flash of the obvious for you, EVERY month is Straight Pride Month." There is a word for someone who truly feels that equal rights for people they don't like is somehow an attack on them. That word is "Bigot".
Saying LGBT people are human too, isn't an attack on straight people. Those people who really think it is, are, quite simply, bigots. People who say LGBT Pride celebrations need to be stopped, are in fact, the exact reason they all started in the first place.
In 2023 one would think such battles would be long over, but in the light of LGBT rights victories in the U.S. over the past few years, the American Talibangelicals have turned their sights to new targets; Trans Kids and Drag Performers.
The rhetoric on the American cultural Right Wing, would have you believe a man in a dress and high heels reading books to kids, is a greater threat than the LEADING cause of death for children in the United States: Gun Violence.
Are Pride celebrations good or bad for the cause of equality? The answer is both. With visibility comes closer examination.
Opponents of equality love to show images of drag queens, leather daddies and shirtless men dancing on parade floats, and scream "See! it's not about equal rights! They just want to recruit your kids into THIS!! They never show the families, advocacy groups, welcoming and inclusive religious denominations, and workplace affinity groups who participate in Pride parades. After all, that wouldn't fit their desired narrative.
You never see CNN asking Tony Perkins, head of the certified Hate-Group, the "Family Research Council" on Fox News about the deadly cultural fetishization of guns and violence towards minorities on the cultural right, and how that had led directly to lethal antiemetic and homophobic attacks.
That would be admitting something of an inconvenient truth.
I have always said that Pride celebrations are not really for the people who attend them. Instead, they are for the people who cannot attend them. Growing up as a Gay kid in a small town in South Central Wisconsin, there were times when I was convinced, I was the only gay person on Earth.
The constant message from popular culture, religion, family and peer groups was "boy meets girl, they fall in love, get married (or not) and have kids and live happily ever after". There was no happily ever after for someone who felt what I was feeling.
Then, for one weekend in June, I would turn on the TV News and see thousands of people just like me, in places like New York, San Francisco and Chicago saying "No, that's not true, you are not alone, and there is a big wide world out here beyond Sun Prairie Wisconsin. So hang in there .... we're here and we're waiting for you!"
1986 Pride Television Coverage
Now more than thirty years later, I watch coverage like this, and it seems so endearingly cheesy. Yet at the time, it was a lifeline to people like me, living with the fear and isolation of being "in the closet".
Pride Celebrations are the original "It Gets Better Project".
My straight friends never needed to be told that being straight was okay, and that they were okay because nobody ever told them they weren't.
So this month we will see joyous crowds gathering in places like Market Street in San Francisco, Oxford Street in London, Halsted Street in Chicago, and Fifth Avenue in New York City, Hillcrest in San Diego, Montrose in Houston, and so many more.
And there is reason to celebrate. We have a President, and administration that honors the idea of "E Pluribus Unum" - that America is one out of many. So in this Pride Month , it is still vitally importing to add our voices voice to the chorus celebrating the diversity of America and the American Experience.
If for no other reason to let that one scared kid know, it really does get better. There is a world where "boy meets boy" and "girl meets girl", where you can be the person that every fibre of your being is screaming for you to be. A world where yes, you can fall in love and (if they want to) get married, and even live happily ever after...
Happy Pride Everyone.
Friday, December 23, 2022
The Power of Truth
The author Joe Klaas, in his book "Twelve Steps to Happiness", writes; "The Truth with set you free... but first it will piss you off." There is plenty contained in the final report of the House Select Committee to do both.
Those Americans who value our 246 year-old experiment in representative democracy will be rightly horrified and then quite justifiably angry at what we as a nation have now learned about both the attack on the Capitol and the lies, high crimes and misdemeanors that let up to it.
Those who in the aftermath of Donald Trump's election defeat, chose for whatever reason, to believe that Democracy is only valid when it delivers results that they like, will of course also find reasons to be angry. For some it will be anger that the race war they so desperately hoped would be sparked on that day never happened.
Yet I hope some of those people who cheered the domestic terrorists who stormed the seat of our government, hoping to thwart the peaceful democratic will of the American People, will read this report and get angry for different reason. I hope it is the righteous anger that stems from the clear indisputable discovery that you were the victim of a con man.
Like that person who clicks on a Facebook "friend request" from someone they thought they know. Only to discover their in box and that of all their contacts flooded with bitcoin spam. Who then makes it their mission to expose the hacker and ruin their life.; I hope there are Republicans who now will throw away that red (made in china) MAGA hat and channel their anger to purge the Republican Party of the Trump poison and its associated criminals, grifters and yes... Traitors to the United States.
Sadly there are still those in the Republican Party for whom the truth, is too inconvenient. For unpatriotic gargoyles like Marjorie Taylor-Greene, Lauren Boebert, Matt Goetz, Ron Johnson and their media amplifiers like TucKKKer Carlson; This report will be seen as an attack by the "woke" left on all they hold dear.
The report tells us many things. But the standout take-away is this: The 45th President of the United States, when faced with the reality that he had lost his bid for re-election chose to lie and lie repeatedly in an attempt to shred the Constitution of the United States and incite a civil war.
Thanks to the work of the Jan 6th Committee, the truth is here for all to see. That Donald Trump, is a narcissistic sociopath, who saw inciting a mob to attack and kill police officers in hopes of achieving the violent overthrow of American democracy... as a small price to pay to soothe his own ego.
Saturday, October 29, 2022
The Joys of Air travel...
I fully understand that for the Airlines and the travel industry as a whole, the resumption of passenger volume at or near pre-pandemic levels is a welcome relief . For many though, there is a dark, aggravating downside to this.
With the return of wide spread air travel, airports and planes are once again filled with....
The general travelling public.
As I sit here in the San Francisco International Airport. I find myself missing the heydays of the Covid 19 lockdown. When if you were flying,, it was out of necessity not desire. Consequently, the majority of travelers you encountered were seasoned fliers who understood both the basics and nuances of air travel.
We are now back to the reality of masses of people for whom:
- The concept of a boarding group number
- The mechanics of escalators and moving walkways
- The ability to form an orderly queue
- The basic physics of overhead storage space
- The finite degree to which a seat can recline
Are all clearly complete mysteries.
People who who think a full sized suitcase somehow meets the definition of a "personal item such as a purse or laptop ".
All those challenges however, pale in comparison to grasping the idea that these folks and their assorted family members could have selected seats when they booked their flight. Or even before they came to airport using online check in.
Instead they have no problem turning boarding the plane into an elaborate game of "Let's Make A Deal". Delaying the entire process while they beg, plead, cajole, demand and even try to guilt and bully people who had the foresight to select seats beforehand into giving them up because they all just HAVE TO BE TOGETHER!
The reasons for this I can only assume is so they can help each other find their shoes at the end of the flight. Because they consider a pressurized confined semi public space a perfectly acceptable place to take them off.
Now don't get me wrong, very experienced travelers can be just as bad . My personal favorite being frequent fliers whose company books them in economy class and they MUST get an upgrade no matter what, or the world will apparently come to a cataclysmic end.
The core issue is, in my not so humble opinion, one of people not understanding the basic reality that when you are an airline passenger you are NOT in control.... of ANYTHING.
None of the complex multitude of variables and logistical elements that need to all come together for even the most basic of short haul flights are in your ability to control.
My beef with the "Travelling General Public" is the entitled belief many hold that air travel should be as convenient and geared to their wants as driving their own car would be. Car travel is an individual experience. Air travel is a collective group experience. One where everyone needs to make small accommodations for the collective good.
Think of checking that clearly oversized carry-on, or making that smallest of efforts to not jump up and block the boarding lane when they call for boarding group 2 when you are in group 5 as the post pandemic equivalent of wearing a mask or social distancing.
Do it for all of us , and we will all get where we are going .
Ok...I feel better now. Excuse me while I go find an $11 cup of coffee.
Sunday, October 16, 2022
Remembering history's first "Zoom Meeting "
They say the worst thing you can have in live television is “dead air”. Suddenly in front of a room full of government and media dignitaries, with broadcasting history literally hanging in the balance, that is exactly what we were facing. Dead air.
We were there along with other young people who shared the unique experience of being media users, not just media consumers. We were from the “Kids 4” television project in Sun Prairie, Wisconsin. Kids4 had been on the air since 1978, and was an educational partnership between the local public access cable channel and the American Council for Better Broadcasting (ACBB, later renamed as the National Telemedia Council )
Joining us there in Washington, was a group from the KIDS ALIVE! Project in Bloomington, Indiana. Together, we were hosting a live cultural exchange via satellite with a group of young people from down under in Brisbane Australia, who hosted the popular children’s program WOMBAT on Australia's Channel 7.
The kids from the Australian television show went first, showing an amazing video montage of their studio, the gold coast of Australia and the stories they produced there at Channel 7 in Brisbane. Then it was our turn. Or so we thought...
A technician from COX Cable Television, hurried into the room and whispered in the ear of a nearby adult that the Video tape player in the satellite truck, was not working, and therefore none of the prepared footage we had brought with us to Washington could be shown. So we proceeded to do what we always did when doing live television. We improvised.
Still, with a ballroom full of media dignitaries watching you , plus trying to fill time with stuff off the top your head, AND cope with at least a 5 second time delay between you and the people you were trying to interview, it was bit tense, even by our standards. But the end result turned out to be something amazing and unexpected.
That one technical glitch turned what would have been a largely scripted exchange into an actual conversation.
Instead of following a script, we talked. Asking each other about school, about hobbies and what was it about working with television that interested them, as well as sharing our own experiences as kids learning to use media and not be used by it.
Of course at the time, it felt like a disaster.
Looking back on that day, now, more than four decades ago, I marvel at how much the world has changed. At the time, what we were doing in Washington DC that day was not all that remarkable from a technical standpoint. Live satellite broadcasts were hardly unusual in 1981. Yet from a cultural and educational standpoint, the Kids-to-Kids interconnect was nothing short of revolutionary.
As much as I say that live satellite television was commonplace in 1981, that isn’t to say the mechanics of it were simple. The path of the satellite interconnect - from Washington, D.C. to , Brisbane, Australia was a complex series of relays starting with a signal carried by cable to trucks parked just outside in the courtyard of the hotel. From there, the signal was beamed by microwave across town to PBS Headquarters.
Finally from there the signal travelled via land lines to the studios of Channel 7, Brisbane, where the Australian children received it and responded. Their messages back to the U.S. travelled in the reverse direction using landlines and satellites back to Washington, to the on-site satellite dish located in the courtyard of the Capitol Holiday Inn, which fed the signal into the ballroom room where it was seen on large screens by all of us there.
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The Interconnect didn’t radically change the media landscape, or advance broadcast technology. What it did do, was in the space of a few short hours make the world a remarkably smaller place. It showed that live satellite broadcasting could be used for more than breaking news and sporting events
The interconnect was the first global Zoom meeting.
The greatest take away from that day for those of us fortunate enough to have been part of it, was the power of broadcast technology to bridge distances and connect people in new and exciting ways. It was, at least for me, a life changing experience. A live demonstration of the power of broadcast technology to connect people and be a platform for sharing experiences and ideas, in (nearly) real time.
Media Literacy is more crucial now than ever before. Teaching young people how to harness the power of media, and connectivity as tools for education and empowerment is more important today, than it has ever been.
Teaching young people to be media users, not just media consumers has always been at heart of the mission of Kids 4 and The ACBB / National Telemedia Council . That mission, which took a gigantic step forward in 1981 continues today. Now as the International Council for Media Literacy You can find out more about the IC4ML and it's mission and legacy on their website,: https://www.ic4ml.org
Forty years on, it remains an experience that played a tremendous role in shaping my path in life I am so very grateful to have been a part of it.
Monday, October 03, 2022
Dear Wisconsin Voters... It's up to you
Many of my friends are shocked when they learn that I, used to be a Republican. How could a good progressive Gay man like me, ever have been a member of the GOP? The answer is found in a conversation I had one afternoon when I was thirteen years old.
I was attending an event hosted at Vilas Hall, on the University of Wisconsin Madison Campus. The event was to promote a media literacy and education organization I was heavily involved with at the time.As I walked into the lounge area I heard the sound of a Television, and saw an older gentleman sitting on the couch watching the University of Wisconsin Football game. With his curly white hair and trademark red vest, I instantly recognized former Wisconsin Governor Lee Sherman Dreyfus.
He went on to say that our system was set up to make that possible. The executive branch (Government) worked with the Legislature and the State Senate to craft and pass the laws (Legislation) that were then interpreted by the courts (Justice). Combined, this system of checks, balances and cooperation between all three entities, ensured freedom and opportunity for everyone (Liberty).
I would go on to become an active member and officer of the College Republicans, even chairing the CR election efforts on campus for. Bush-Quayle '88 and '92. My reasons were clear. It was a Republican who had showed me the power of our system of government to make the lives of Americans better, and by extension, the world a better and safer place.
So what happened? Why did I leave the GOP? The most concise way to answer that question is to simply say, the GOP left me. Or more accurately, the GOP left me, Lee Dreyfus, Tommy Thompson, George HW Bush, Bob Dole and yes, even left Ronald Reagan.
The town of Ripon, Wisconsin was the birthplace of the Republican Party. As a very small boy, I lived in Ripon and would regularly go past the landmark where the GOP had its creation. The Republican Party on the ballot next month in Wisconsin, the party of Wisconsin incumbent Senator Ron Johnson, bears no resemblance to the that party. Let alone to the party of Lee Dreyfus.
Trump Supporters liked to scream about how they wanted to “Make America Great Again!", which is nothing more than code for not wanting a people different from them to have any rights. Well, I want to make the GOP great again. I want a Republican Party that believes in the synergy of Government, Justice , Legislation and Liberty.
Monday, August 08, 2022
My Hope for November 2022
WARNING - The following is a political rant...
Friday, July 01, 2022
So Here We Are... Thanks for that.
I get it, you didn't mean for all this to happen. But, you just didn’t like her…
You “felt” she was dishonest, you said she lied, (about what exactly, you never actually specified…but I get it..)
Setting aside Millions of Dollars and hours of government resources were spent repeatedly investigating her and found no crimes, ever. Setting aside that she sat and testified for 11 hours about a tragedy that happened on her watch, and yet the men whose lies took America into the war that created the terrorists responsible for that tragedy, have never even been questioned under oath.
Setting all that aside… I get it, you just didn’t like her.
Setting aside the fact that there has been an entire cable news network that for over twenty years was near singularly dedicated to accusing her (with no evidence or proof whatsoever) of everything from bad fashion sense, to first degree murder. Setting aside the fact that she was the most experienced and qualified candidate to seek the Presidency in a generation.
Setting aside the fact that she was held to a standard of public transparency and critique that NO male candidate for the same office, has ever been held to.
I know you felt Bernie was robbed, and you know what? He wasn’t. I have a news flash for you. The majority of American voters don’t do what the DNC subliminally tells them to. Hillary Clinton won more votes.
It’s not a rigged system it was math. Even without “Super-delegates” (Which we all agree were stupid are now reformed, thanks to Sen. Sanders…). she still would have been the nominee, because (again.. math,) she won the most delegates.
I know you feel both parties are part of a rigged system that deliberately excludes third and more parties. You are right. It does, and you are correct in saying it is wrong. But guess what? There was no way whatsoever that this system was going to change in time for the 2016 election.
So, the reality was neither Gary Johnson or Jill Stein had a snowballs chance in hell of winning the election, assuming even they were on the ballot in all 50 states. So like it or not the choice was between Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton. (Who, I get it… You didn’t like. )
I know you tend to tune out when people talk about the Supreme Court, because it is very abstract. But as you apparently were willing to accept those 4 years of a Trump/Pence administration, you should at least be intellectually honest about that meant in real life terms.
(Taken directly from the 2016 Republican Party Platform)
Appoint anti-choice Supreme Court justices:
"Only a Republican president will appoint judges who respect the rule of law expressed within the Constitution and Declaration of Independence, including the inalienable right to life and the laws of nature and nature’s God, as did the late Justice Antonin Scalia.”
Appoint anti-LGBT and anti-Obamacare justices:
“Only such appointments will enable courts to begin to reverse the long line of activist decisions — including Roe, Obergefell, and the Obamacare cases — that have usurped Congress’s and states’ law-making authority.”
Legalize anti-LGBT discrimination:
"We endorse the First Amendment Defense Act, Republican legislation in the House and Senate which will bar government discrimination against individuals and businesses for acting on the belief that marriage is the union of one man and one woman."
Make Christianity a national religion:
"We support the public display of the Ten Commandments as a reflection of our history and our country's Judeo-Christian heritage and further affirm the rights of religious students to engage in voluntary prayer at public school events and to have equal access to school facilities."
Privatize Medicare, the health plan for seniors:
“Impose no changes for persons 55 years of older. Give others the option of traditional Medicare or transition to a premium-support model designed to strengthen patient choice, promote cost-saving competition among providers."
Support traditional marriage but no other families:
"Children raised in a two-parent household tend to be physically and emotionally healthier, more likely to do well in school, less likely to use drugs and alcohol, engage in crime or become pregnant outside of marriage. We oppose policies and laws that create a financial incentive for or encourage cohabitation."
I could go on and on. This stuff was just the tip of the right wing fundamentalist iceberg. But I hear you cry that at the time you didn’t think Trump, really believed in all that far right claptrap, so you didn’t worry about it!
And I won’t even get into how your “Protest Vote” played a direct role in the death of over half a million Americans thanks to Trump’s catastrophic failure to respond to the COVID 19 pandemic before it was too late.
But I get it, the fact you “felt” you couldn’t trust Hillary was way more important than a woman’s right to control her own body. I get it, the fact that it was clear that a Trump Presidency would damage our nation’s economy, global standing, national security, and environment, was just the price we need to pay to give the Libertarian Party a serious shot at 2028… or may maybe 2032!
I get it, the lives of over 1 million Americans who died from Covid, were not as important as you being able to say you didn’t “Sell out the Revolution!” and weren’t co-opted by the party machine!
Or lots of your fellow Americans... apparently,
Thursday, May 26, 2022
Thursday, April 28, 2022
Dear Democratic Party... Why Won't You Fight?
Dear Democratic Party,
Um...No.
It is to pick
the pockets of 99% of Americans and just give their money and then some to the
top 1%. It is to ignore science, institute
theocracy, make American health Care a Darwinian nightmare of survival of the
richest. It is to eliminate rights of
women and demonize LGBTQ Americans with the vicious lie they are a threat to
children.
It is to turn the clock back from 2022 to 1952. It is to make white supremacy a guiding national
principle and to take anyone who doesn’t fit that monochrome, monotheistic, racist,
sexist, xenophobic and yes, fascist profile and regulate them to 2nd
or even 3rd class citizenship. All this is true.
But you won’t say that out loud. Sure, you put it your fundraising emails. In bold font sometimes even underlined. But you won’t stand on the floor of the House
chamber or in the Senate and say the agenda of the Republican Party is one of liars, racists and thieves who are going to destroy this country. You just don’t have the guts.
You see, you apparently think this is still the same country
it was prior to 2016. You think the old
rules of sanity, civility and public decency still apply to our national
debate. You believe that if you just
keep “taking the high road” the American People will see that and think “Gosh
the Democrats are good people! I’ll vote
for them!”
You are beyond stupid, and if you don’t start fighting you
are going to lose. America has changed, and not for better. The true legacy of Donald Trump is that truth
no longer matters.
But no, instead you stood behind your podiums looking constipated and lamented the ‘unprecedentedness” of it all.
When a Republican member of congress stood on the floor of the house and bald-faced lied, claiming Democrats are satanic child molesters, what do you do in response? I know what you should have done. You should have stopped everything and every single member of your party should have found a camera and microphone and said that person was a fascist nutcase who must immediately be expelled from Congress, and any Republican who doesn’t agree is complete and total coward.But no, you just stood behind your podiums again, looking
constipated, lamenting the “unprecedentedness” of it all.
You signaled clearly to the GOP that you were not going to
fight. So, it just got worse. To the point where a mob of domestic terrorists
was sent to attack YOU on January 6th. Now, over a year later, facing the 2022 midterms
you refuse to say out loud the simple truth; Voting Republican is voting to support terrorists, white supremacists,
and
criminals who will loot the U.S Treasury for themselves and their donors.
You don’t have the guts to win. Your very well-paid consultants have convinced
you that to speak the truth out loud might alienate “centrist voters’. So, you will speak in vague general terms
about “fighting for America’s middle class”.
And when women’s rights, voting rights, civil rights for all
minorities are rolled back to ‘good old days’ when middle aged rich white men
were all that mattered, you will be sad about it. But let’s be honest, folks like Chuck Schumer and his friends will
be just fine. Their own wall street pals
will make sure of that.
The rest of us are on our own.
You need to call the GOP what it is, an evil cult. A cabal of con artists who will destroy this nation for fun and profit.
They are the KKK gone political. They are
racist, sexist, homophobic anti American domestic terrorists who will eliminate
Social Security and Medicare (which by the way, is actually IN their 11 point “plan”.) and turn America into an Oligarchy the likes
of which would make Vladimir Putin bust with envy.
I'll leave you with the sage of advice of one fictional Democratic operative from "The West Wing"
Until you actually start truly fighting against the GOP, all the emails in the world aren’t going to convince Americans to join you.